...that was the core of that whole TV show is that it looked like I respected her and she respected me for all of our difficulties."
I was watching the making of Home Improvement, a wildly successful family sitcom in the 80's that some of you might remember where Tim the tool man Taylor mimicked Bob Villa with a home improvement show.
For a show like that to be successful, the chemistry between the husband and wife team are crucial. What is interesting is the reason Tim said the audience connected to the relationship
Tim & Jill scene from Home Improvement
they saw on screen between him and Patricia Richardson who played his wife, Jill, on the show.
The first person chosen to play Tim's wife on the show was Francis Fischer, an excellent actress, but Tim and she lacked chemistry due to her 'strength' on screen. She overpowered Tim and the audience wasn't connecting with him as the lead.
Then, Patricia Richardson was called in to play the part.
Tim recalls, "We connected. It looked like we had a marriage. The core of that whole TV show is that it looked like I respected her and she respected me for all of our difficulties."
I know it's just a TV show, but that comment struck me. Respecting one another through all of life's difficulties is a main ingredient we need to feel bonded to someone and to believe that no matter what, they have our back. It's not just a top component of good marriages, but of all relationships. Would you agree?