Whether you’re long distance lovers or home every night together (which can feel long distance at times right?), digital touch can be a powerful way to affect the people you love.
I researched the science of digital love and there’s a rabbit hole of studies on today’s social media behaviors on teens, adults, cheaters and lovers. There’s different analysis and consensus on whether it’s right or wrong and healthy or unhealthy.
There’s a huge push in many of the articles about the importance of face-to-face communication in today’s digital world, but I contend that there is also a lot of benefits that come from the ability to communicate digitally. As a member of the military, who’s spent time away from her family, I have experienced the benefits of digital communications. There are times I feel more connected in my digital communications than in person.
Healthy or unhealthy, wrong or right, Digital communication is not going away anytime soon.
Many times, when you’re communicating digitally with someone via text, pictures, youtube videos, your brain is webbing together a scenario or story with that person. We look to Neuroscience to explains how fiction, reading and writing affects our brain.
According to The New York Times Sunday Review in an article called, Your Brain on Fiction, author Annie Murphy Paul writes, “Brain scans are revealing what happens in our heads when we read a detailed description, an evocative metaphor or an emotional exchange between characters. Stories, this research is showing, stimulate the brain and even change how we act in life.”
Novels (stories) go beyond simulating reality to give readers an experience unavailable off the page: the opportunity to enter fully into other people’s thoughts and feelings.
Whether we are sending the story or receiving the story (digital message), it can be a powerful way to connect with someone, even if they’re not in the same room with you.
So, in honor of our long-distance lovers and couples who the economy has forced to live apart . . . actually, ALL relationships, I thought it would be beneficial to share some creative digital communication ideas to touch your friends, family or lovers with when you're apart.
You're invited to share your digital #touch stories in the comments below.
Just today I had a friend share a photo essay of his morning. He sent photos and comments of completely normal things happening in his day but I felt closer to him with each message.
Nothing special here- in fact, these are pics of mundane daily things. It didn’t take any planning, but still had the power for me to feel connected to him.
We’ll call this, a photo essay of two lovers…(just giving ideas here!)
It doesn't matter how you decide to communicate digitally, as long as you are trying to stay connected. It's too easy, with the tools we have today, not to reach out to the people we love. We all need connection. It can be as small as sending a link to a song on YouTube that brings memories back for you both to a surprising text message they’re not expecting.